Drink Water, Save Relationship, Save the Day

 
I love being married. But I also love my precious alone time, always getting my way, and having everything I want! Where is the compromise in that!?!?! 

Through seven years of marriage, plus working together everyday, here is the trick that saves us daily and the Taoist medicine behind it: 

A glass of water. 

Stay with me here - I know the suggestion to drink more water is not news, but let me offer you the reason behind it, so you can gain new insight on why this is and how to implement this to your benefit. 

In the Taoist Chinese Five Elements, every body part and all emotions are categorized into one of the Chinese Five Elements of Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, or Water. 

When you feel and look your best, physically and emotionally, each of these Elements are aligned with the others and working in balanced harmony. When don't feel or look your best, somewhere within your...

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What Wrinkle Cream Taught Me About My Birthday

I celebrated my birthday last week.

Never one to disappoint, my mother-in-law provided my most provocative birthday gift: wrinkle cream.

I took it like the champion birthday girl I am, with a smile and a thank you, but was instantly transported through a lifetime of birthday flashbacks, ripe with all of the unique, raw emotions another candle on the cake inevitably brings.

I remember feeling terribly anxious at birthday parties as a little girl. I worried excessively about fitting-in. The party games, my party dress, my present, even my shoes and those little white ruffled ankle socks that were a staple in little girl wardrobes when I was growing up, all represented bottomless wells of childhood angst.  

I distinctly remember the birthday party that changed everything.

I was about nine years old and this was the “school’s finally out and summer is here!” inaugural sleepover birthday party of the season. I was one of about 20 lucky guests on a...

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Why Effective Communication Your Key to Empowerment

Empowerment is such a juicy word.

It drips with images of freedom, happiness, ease, and even a touch of glamour. We all want to embody it, exude it, and live it.

But what, exactly, is empowerment?

7 individual aspects of life, when nurtured, collectively reveal how to discover, reclaim, and embrace, your own potential in order to fuel your own unique vision of personal empowerment.  

Communication is one of these seven centers of personal power and a key player in daily happiness and self-worth.

The time I spend in Greece each year with my husband’s family highlights this.  I struggled for years to communicate, drowning in the nets of language barriers and cultural expectations.

I’m embarrassed to admit to the hours of island perfection I sacrificed by hiding behind my husband (or glass of wine or cup of coffee) wishing to disappear and finish out a family evening unnoticed. 

I made myself miserable, which...

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The Value of Sweating the Small Stuff

This week I challenge you to sweat the small stuff.

I’m not asking you to dive into super control freak mode and make yourself crazy over every small decision in your life. I am asking you to notice the small victories in your day and find joy in simplicity. What better time to “stop and smell the flowers” then now, when the first signs of spring have finally appeared?

Life’s big choices take up the most headspace, get the most talk-time and forethought, and I mostly agree this… But I find too often the weighty decisions we make for our relationships, family, and careers unfairly elbow out the smaller daily decisions which, when combined, actually take up a very large portion of the day, and therefore can have a profound effect on happiness and productivity.

As an admitted perfectionist and high anxiety gal, the last thing I need is to overthink brewing coffee, brushing my teeth, or planning a meal. But finding simple pleasure in the...

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How to Forgive the Unforgivable

How easily can you forgive someone for a transgression against you or a loved one? How easily can you forgive yourself?

The inability to forgive has a massive impact on your life design. A past betrayal can hinder your ability to be vulnerable and allow a new love into your life. Distrust can poison future opportunities and color every aspect of your day from impeding your ability to trust the next partner, to crushing your own self-image because you believe yourself a poor judge of character and unable to make sound decisions. The inability to forgive encourages looping negative thoughts while feeding anger and depression, two endlessly greedy emotional states.

To provide a new perspective on a familiar topic, the following is a zen story on forgiveness I learned from a source of my own inspiration, Amma:

A man visits his teacher seeking guidance. He says, “I'm having a really hard time forgiving. You are always preaching about forgiveness. And I believe in...

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