Drink Water, Save Relationship, Save the Day

 
I love being married. But I also love my precious alone time, always getting my way, and having everything I want! Where is the compromise in that!?!?! 

Through seven years of marriage, plus working together everyday, here is the trick that saves us daily and the Taoist medicine behind it: 

A glass of water. 

Stay with me here - I know the suggestion to drink more water is not news, but let me offer you the reason behind it, so you can gain new insight on why this is and how to implement this to your benefit. 

In the Taoist Chinese Five Elements, every body part and all emotions are categorized into one of the Chinese Five Elements of Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, or Water. 

When you feel and look your best, physically and emotionally, each of these Elements are aligned with the others and working in balanced harmony. When don't feel or look your best, somewhere within your...

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What Wrinkle Cream Taught Me About My Birthday

I celebrated my birthday last week.

Never one to disappoint, my mother-in-law provided my most provocative birthday gift: wrinkle cream.

I took it like the champion birthday girl I am, with a smile and a thank you, but was instantly transported through a lifetime of birthday flashbacks, ripe with all of the unique, raw emotions another candle on the cake inevitably brings.

I remember feeling terribly anxious at birthday parties as a little girl. I worried excessively about fitting-in. The party games, my party dress, my present, even my shoes and those little white ruffled ankle socks that were a staple in little girl wardrobes when I was growing up, all represented bottomless wells of childhood angst.  

I distinctly remember the birthday party that changed everything.

I was about nine years old and this was the “school’s finally out and summer is here!” inaugural sleepover birthday party of the season. I was one of about 20 lucky guests on a...

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Why Effective Communication Your Key to Empowerment

Empowerment is such a juicy word.

It drips with images of freedom, happiness, ease, and even a touch of glamour. We all want to embody it, exude it, and live it.

But what, exactly, is empowerment?

7 individual aspects of life, when nurtured, collectively reveal how to discover, reclaim, and embrace, your own potential in order to fuel your own unique vision of personal empowerment.  

Communication is one of these seven centers of personal power and a key player in daily happiness and self-worth.

The time I spend in Greece each year with my husband’s family highlights this.  I struggled for years to communicate, drowning in the nets of language barriers and cultural expectations.

I’m embarrassed to admit to the hours of island perfection I sacrificed by hiding behind my husband (or glass of wine or cup of coffee) wishing to disappear and finish out a family evening unnoticed. 

I made myself miserable, which...

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The Value of Sweating the Small Stuff

This week I challenge you to sweat the small stuff.

I’m not asking you to dive into super control freak mode and make yourself crazy over every small decision in your life. I am asking you to notice the small victories in your day and find joy in simplicity. What better time to “stop and smell the flowers” then now, when the first signs of spring have finally appeared?

Life’s big choices take up the most headspace, get the most talk-time and forethought, and I mostly agree this… But I find too often the weighty decisions we make for our relationships, family, and careers unfairly elbow out the smaller daily decisions which, when combined, actually take up a very large portion of the day, and therefore can have a profound effect on happiness and productivity.

As an admitted perfectionist and high anxiety gal, the last thing I need is to overthink brewing coffee, brushing my teeth, or planning a meal. But finding simple pleasure in the...

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How to Forgive the Unforgivable

How easily can you forgive someone for a transgression against you or a loved one? How easily can you forgive yourself?

The inability to forgive has a massive impact on your life design. A past betrayal can hinder your ability to be vulnerable and allow a new love into your life. Distrust can poison future opportunities and color every aspect of your day from impeding your ability to trust the next partner, to crushing your own self-image because you believe yourself a poor judge of character and unable to make sound decisions. The inability to forgive encourages looping negative thoughts while feeding anger and depression, two endlessly greedy emotional states.

To provide a new perspective on a familiar topic, the following is a zen story on forgiveness I learned from a source of my own inspiration, Amma:

A man visits his teacher seeking guidance. He says, “I'm having a really hard time forgiving. You are always preaching about forgiveness. And I believe in...

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How to Morning Journal Your Way to Happiness

My meditation mojo has gone out the window.

Sitting in meditation is the last thing I’ve wanted to do lately... and then I feel bad about myself for ditching it because I’m usually so disciplined with my meditation practice.

To compromise, I’ve replaced daily meditation with writing morning pages.

I have so much fun and success from this ritual, I need to share it with you so you can try it for yourself.

Morning journaling is a practice I’ve been in and out of the last 4 years. Through stream of consciousness journaling, I’ve uncovered both questions and answers about myself and what to do next. These grow in my subconscious mind first, show up on the page second, and then slowly take tangible shape in my life.

If meditation isn’t your thing, but you want to clear your mind and reset yourself, try journaling. A few minutes of practically illegible scribbles on a page each morning can direct you toward profound life changes!

To begin, you only...

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Personal Power in Relationships: Why Are Relationships Hard And Do They Need to Be?

People ask me all the time how I manage to both live and work full time with my husband and still maintain a successful marriage and a thriving business. Here are a few insights that I hope you can apply, not only to your romantic relationships, but also to your self-worth.

Start with busting the belief that relationships are hard. Latching onto this limiting belief creates a self-fulfilling prophecy of strife inside your marriage or intimate partnership. It preys upon your confidence and poisons your intuition. The more you feed the notion that relationships are hard by nature, the more you relinquish your power within them and squash that intuitive voice of warning that tries to flag you when sometime isn’t right. 

Your personal power wants to survive, thrive, and protect you. It fights to be heard when it feels threatened. Unfortunately, instead of tapping into our power of innate self-worth and intuition, instead we create excuses for other people's poor behavior (in...

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Feeling Stuck in Your Career? 3 Unconventional Ways to Get Motivated

Another Monday unfolds, eclipsing the weekend’s adventures and replacing them with meetings, memos and morning commutes. What happened to your power career? The glamour job where waking up each morning was exciting, the office dress code was fashionista, and every decision you made helped to make the world a better place?

Somewhere along the way, did monotony and complacency flood in, drowning out the motivation for each new work day?

Let Albert Einstein’s famous quote remind you that “nothing happens until something moves.” Here are three unconventional ways to get moving and find a new perspective on yourself, your workday, and reignite your motivation.

1. Get Scared. 

Generating momentum to move out of a current situation, however unsatisfying, is nearly impossible without confidence. And often the more disheartening the circumstance, plus the longer you’ve been sedentary with it, the less confidence you have.

Embracing Creative...

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How to Manage Anxiety With the 1-10 Method

My first intimate encounter with Anxiety, which remains clearly etched in my memory, occurred shortly before my 26th birthday. I sat with my mother in the doctor’s office waiting room after completing a neurological consultation and awaiting further testing. Turning to me, my mother’s voice was gentle, “Do you want to know what we think it is?” My father, a physician aware of my symptoms, had previously volunteered no diagnosis.

Before the words, “You have Multiple Sclerosis” finished crossing her lips, tears poured from my eyes. That very moment, Anxiety rushed at me and took firm hold.

These early days of our relationship, when Anxiety first barged into my life, every encounter brought shortness of breath and uncontrollable sobs. Anxiety, pushy and socially inept, ignored my distress and plunged ahead, brazenly spending the night, uninvited, refusing to let me sleep and draining me of all passion, confidence, and motivation.

I...

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Stop Wasting Time on How to be Happy

happy Jan 10, 2019

Close your eyes and visualize happiness...

What do you see?

Does it take the form of money, a person, a relationship, a job, or good health? You may have all of these things and still feel unhappy. Others have none of these and yet radiate joy. How can this be?

Step into your courage with a different approach to happiness. Stop wasting time seeking a face outside of your own to bring in fulfillment. When happiness is a moving target in your life, like a job, a vacation, or a person, you will forever be seeking and unfulfilled. Start cultivating habits of self worth and personal empowerment instead!

Here are a few of my particular favorites:

1. Limit your social media usage.

Sure, social media platforms suck time, but unchecked, they can also sap self-worth. Social media posts only show one side of a situation and it’s often the most beautiful, profitable, and desirable side. As a result, you subconsciously compare yourself negatively against others and are potentially left...

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